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By Di Li
I was born in a provincial
hospital in the dead of night. As my father waited outside
the gate, pacing back and forth on the hard dirt road, an
astrologist happened to walk by. He noticed my father
standing alone in the moonlight and paused in his journey.
They spoke to each other for a long while when suddenly the
hospital door was flung open. A nurse poked her head out and
announced my birth. My father breathed a sigh of relief and
the astrologist shook his hand in congratulations.
"Your son will certainly be a
great man of nationwide reputation. He’ll be your pride and
treasure," the man said before disappearing down the dark
road.
At the time my father thought
nothing of the unexpected remark.
***
At the age of three, I was
unable to speak, though I could understand most of what my
parents said to me. This fact alone saved me from being
categorised as mentally challenged by the psychologists who
tested me. Some even said that my speechlessness was an
improvement over the noisy clamour that usually accompanies
children. Moreover, I was an obedient child, so my parents
did not feel much regret for my one flaw.
By the time I started primary
school, I was still mostly closemouthed. Instead of talking
in class I stayed mostly silent, absorbing my teachers’
lectures. In terms of actual intelligence, my capacity was
only average, but by virtue of my careful listening on the
one hand and my absolute obedience on the other, my teachers
gave me excellent marks. With that advantage, my name was
constantly on the list of the top ten students throughout
high school, despite the fact I remained rather taciturn.
"Your duty is to listen,
whereas, my task is to talk," said one of my well-known
teachers. For the rest of my life, I bore this advice in
mind.
Unfortunately for me, I failed
my university entrance examinations after finishing my
secondary education. Consequently, my life turned in another
direction, eventually reaching beyond my parents’
expectations.
After I bombed the exam, my Dad
managed to find me a job in a detergent factory. My daily
work was to deliver pouches of powdered soap to the
company’s agents and shops. Thanks to my diligent efforts
and honest nature, I was usually commended by my superiors
and often rewarded. After a meeting between the employees
and the boss one evening, he summoned me into his office.
" What do you have to say now?"
he asked me.
"Nothing, Sir."
"During the meeting, I saw you
letting your mind wander. I noticed that you said nothing
the entire time. In my opinion, you must have had something
on your mind but you were too timid to express it. Now you
can tell me what was distracting you."
"Frankly speaking, I’ve got
nothing special to say, sir."
"Then what were you doing during
the meeting?" he asked.
"I was just listening to your
address, sir."
"Really? Can you give me a
summary of the main points then?"
I reiterated nearly the entire
speech, a skill I had practised during my days at school.
Taking a handkerchief out of his
pocket he wiped away the tears falling down his cheeks and
said in a choked voice, "You really are a talented youth."
Then he gave me an incoherent and boring lecture about the
relations between the masses and the leader. , knowing how
to listen is the first proof of a leader’s relationship with
the masses. If a leader wants to understand the thoughts and
aspirations of the masses, he must know how to listen to
them. Listening will lead to better understanding, and the
masses call for those who are interested in listening to
them. If we know how to …" He went on and on, in high
spirits that someone was listening to his nonsense.
"You may go very far in the
future, my dear son. What if I appoint you to the post of
deputy head of the business section? " he asked, with an
encouraging smile.
"Surely, it’d be a great honour
for me, sir."
The next day I was promoted to a
new position, which my section head was not pleased about,
even though I was still his subordinate. He grumbled that I
had neither the qualifications, nor the business skills for
the position. It was only a short time before I proved his
complaints were unfounded. After only a little while, my
efficiency had increased remarkably. My business plan was
fulfilled two quarters ahead of schedule. One day the
section head asked me sheepishly, "Can you share your
knowledge with the other inexperienced group heads and their
employees?"
"In fact, I’ve got no knowhow,
sir," I replied.
"Surely, you have something to
say to them."
"No, nothing at all, sir."
"What methods have you
followed?" he asked me angrily.
"I followed your directions, no
more no less."
"Okay, tell me my instructions
then, will you?"
I repeated the advice he had
given me word for word.
"Only what I’ve told you?"
"Yes, sir."
In reality, I didn’t know how I
delivered the products entrusted to me so quickly. Even when
my stock of detergent had been shipped, I succeeded in
selling out detergent that had been sitting in the warehouse
for years.
"You’re a genius in business
operations, indeed," he said in congratulations, shaking my
hand. "Knowing how to listen, working hard and following
instructions from your superiors is the first step to
success."
One month later the personnel in
my section lodged a petition to the general director to
promote me to the post of section head in place of the
existing leader for two reasons: first, I’d managed to
rescue the company from the brink of bankruptcy and second,
I was a very modest young man who always listened to the
opinions of the staff. Two days later their petition was
ratified and I was promoted to business section head.
***
For the first time in my life I
discovered that I possessed an extraordinary capacity: truly
listening to people without being bored, no matter what they
were talking about. In addition, I attentively listened to
customers’ requests to get high-quality detergent and their
complaints about other manufacturers’ ways of distributing
their products and even, sometimes, their personal stories.
As a result, I became more and more successful. Sometimes, I
was invited by other companies to take charge of their
businesses. Another businessman once told me, "We
businessmen hardly ever answer press interviews." I bore
this fact in mind and limited my contact with reporters.
Soon I became the talk of the town.
By this point, it could be said
that the astrologist’s prophecy from so many years ago had
come true to some extent. I fell in love with a pretty girl,
the daughter of a car magnate. However, she did not love me,
nor did her family. They said that money meant nothing to
them. The only thing they cared about was whether or not
their prospective son-in-law would glorify the lineage of
the bride. In this respect, I could hardly meet their
requirements. When I contacted her father, I did not dare to
utter a word. Before going home, I heard the girl’s mother
complaining about her back-ache. "My mother has the same
trouble as you, ma’am," I said, grateful for a conversation
starter.
"Really? Where does it hurt
her?"
"The vertebra at the bottom of
the backbone, ma’am."
"It’s the same for me. What kind
of medicine has she been using?"
"Just some oriental medicinal
herbs, ma’am."
"Yes, that’s the right way to
treat the pain. My husband and daughter tend to take western
medicines," she said with a frown. Then she began to explain
to me that most of our diseases came from our five innards.
She went on and on about the different kinds of eastern
medicine our forefathers used to treat illnesses. For the
first time in my life I could hardly remember what someone
talking to me had said. However, it was worth it as she
promised to arrange another rendezvous for her daughter and
myself the next evening. When I stepped out of the door, it
was already pitch-dark. When I had arrived that morning, the
family was just finishing their breakfast.
The next day the girl rang me up
and said that she was only going out with me because her
mother asked her to. As for herself, she had no impression
of me at all. She suggested we meet in a nearby expensive
restaurant. After finishing our appetisers in silence, she
dropped her spoon with a clatter. "Why are you so taciturn?
Did you invite me here just to watch me eat a bowl of soup?"
I nearly blurted out that it was she who had invited me to
this place, but on second thought, I decided the wiser
course would be to silent, slurp up my last few spoonfuls of
eel soup.
"You’re similar to the guard at
my office," she said. "He’s always speechless like a church
mouse. His only purpose in life is to watch people coming
and going. He only looks up like a robot."
"Quite a robot, indeed."
"Really?" I replied awkwardly.
"All other young women are
envious of you," I remarked after a long silence.
"Why’s that?" she asked, looking
bored.
"I don’t know, but I’ve got the
idea in my head," I told her sincerely.
"Such a flatterer," she said,
rolling her eyes.
After we finished dessert, she
asked if we should bother having another meal like this.
I have read many books which
said the best way to conquer the fairer sex was to use
flowery words. As for me I decided to follow the tenet of
"silence is golden". Soon she said good-bye to me forever.
***
Afterward, I learnt some more
skills in addition to my practice of listening. Previously,
I learnt by heart what others had said, but now owing to my
experience and wide range of acquaintances, the more I
listened the more cunning I became. Now, not only did I
listen, but I learned that by carefully composing my facial
expressions, I could add to the impression that I was
incredibly interested in what was being said to me.
As a result, I became so
sensitive to other people’s emotions and so good at silently
responding, that I became known as a wise man. Once I
attended a dinner party with a number of esteemed
professors. I managed to fall into conversation with a group
of scholars on the wrong side of seventy. Most of them had
very little interest in eating, drinking or listening to
others (especially since most of them were wearing hearing
aids). Nevertheless, they were still able to talk my ear
off. When a linguistics professor began dissecting the
difference between "weak points" and "strong points", I
modified my countenance to express my eagerness. When an
agriculture expert dealt with the application of the rice
breeds TC 10 and TC 15, I expressed my utter surprise. When
a poet read one of his brief works, I showed my admiration
for his poetic talent. By the end of the party, they were
greatly impressed with my erudition and asked one another
why such a man was not in the circle of savants and, what’s
more, they discussed ways to promote me to the rank of
professorship.
Now the prophecy was proving to
be quite right. Soon my name began appearing in various
scientific magazines and journals published by learned men.
The press found me quite a mystery, saying that I was a
modest lecturer who did not like to disclose much about
himself.
With the passage of time, I
found myself losing the strength I had as a young man.
Previously, I had been able to listen to a long speech for
hours without being tired, but now I found myself
occasionally nodding off. Sometimes I would see a look of
confusion pass over my conversation partner’s face and
realise that my facial expression was completely wrong. This
began to worry me. "My glory days are past!" I said to
myself.
While I pondered my situation, I
was struck by an idea. "Why can’t I be an instructor, like
an old football player past his prime?" I asked myself.
Finally, I opened a course called "The Art of Listening". I
put up posters and had ads printed in leaflets. For the
whole week, no one enrolled. Perhaps people wanted to learn
something about the arts of oration, communication,
persuasion and negotiation, but people didn’t seem that
interested in listening. After all, a one-year old child
could do it without being taught.
I decided to change my tactics
and put up a giant poster which said, "Learn the secret to
achieving 100% success!" Almost immediately, people began
flocking to my lectures. At first I felt a bit lost and
confused. I had spent half of my life in silence, after all.
Public speaking was a big problem for me, so I started by
copying the lecture that had started me on my life’s path.
"Knowing how to listen is the
first indication of natural leadership qualities. If you
want to understand the thoughts and aspirations of the
masses, you must know how to listen to them. The masses need
people who know how to listen. If you know how to listen…"
To my surprise, I found students
hanging on my every word at the first class. At the second
class, there were a few people nodding off, but I kept
talking. By the third class, half the students were snoring
away with their heads laid on the desktop. I felt compelled
to remind them that "those who can abstain from falling
asleep will be successful later". But in the fourth class,
the number of students sleeping soundly had climbed to two
thirds of the packed classroom. But nobody seemed willing to
quit, owing to the high fee they had paid, I suppose.
The next semester, the number of
students remained fairly high, for everyone wanted to find
out my secret to success. The more I talked, the stronger my
voice became. I began to feel that speaking was a wondrous
thing, especially with a captive audience. I began to regret
that I hadn’t discovered the joy of speech until half my
lifetime had already passed me by. I felt that now was the
time for me to talk about everything that I had kept bottled
up inside, but there was too much, it felt too late.
***
One day a scandalous headline
appeared splashed across the front page of a number of
newspapers. "Prof X, a successful businessman, one of the
most talented men in our country, has been hospitalised due
to a mysterious disease that doctors have been unable to
identify or treat. The malady has been temporarily dubbed
the ‘Talking Disease’. From the moment he was admitted to
the hospital until press time, the professor hasn’t eaten or
drunk. As for the masses, they must regret that such a
talented man will end his glorious career so prematurely." (VNS)
Translated by Van Minh |